Can a Conservative and a Liberal Be in a Relationship?

I think some people can relate when I say, it seems politics used to be simple. I remember back in the 90s and even 2000s when the only real debate between a liberal and a conservative was the issue of abortion. In which case, I think two people who see differently on that issue alone can be in a relationship no problem.

Nowadays it seems that politics have morphed into this diabolical mess of morals, insults, racism, and the notion that people don’t deserve the basic needs of survival, you know: food, water, air, shelter, education, and well… sex.

So here is the question: Can a Conservative and a Liberal be in a relationship?

Well, here is what I know about relationships:

I know for a fact that relationships take hard work. You have to respect the other person’s differences and understand that you are not two people in the same pod but two entirely different people altogether. Every couple disagrees on SOMETHING–That’s part of a healthy relationship. But what if the person has a completely different view on life as you do? Is it possible. Jeanne Safer, Ph. D, wrote an article for Huffington Post on this exact subject. She is a liberal and has been with her conservative husband for 30+ years and somehow they are making it work. Click here for her article. According to her, she and her husband rarely fight and although they have differences in political views, they each keep an open mind.

Nowadays, I am not sure people would be so lucky. Mind you, I am a liberal myself and there are things I have a hard time accepting from the conservative front. I cannot agree that the violence-free National Anthem protesting is a bad thing. I do not agree that a woman should have no control over her reproductive rights. I agree that struggling families should have every right to government assistance even if it comes out of my tax dollars. I agree that immigrants and refugees have a right to make America their home just as I have. I could go on and on. Could I really be with a man who didn’t see eye-to-eye with me on that? Call me weak, but I don’t think I could deal with it. At the end of the day, even if it is a fantasy in the making, I’d like to think that I will be with a partner who I could stand next to and fight for the rights of all people despite race, religion, gender, social class, economic class together–hand in hand.

In conclusion, could it work? Sure. But here is the problem, both of you will have to set your beliefs aside and possibly never discuss these topics without hating each other. I say, why bother? At this point in my life, my beliefs in basic human rights is not something I am willing to sacrifice, especially for a relationship.




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